Get Out of Your Way

I’m a bit pissed off at myself because I already missed some of my New Years resolutions (I had sworn to work out every week).

Here’s something that might help you if you’re in a similar place:
Here’s something that might help you if you’re in a similar place:

He was asked in a podcast with Ryan Stickler what he would’ve told his 16- year-old self, and after some self-deprecating jokes, Tim said something to the extent of “Nothing (…) You get where you’re going.”

Then he added something which stuck with me:
“Get out of your own way (…)
In a way, my life is none of my business.”

I wasn’t sure what he meant, at first.
Sure, I know I’ve been in my way a lot. I’ve sabotaged my progress, I’ve broken my resolutions and I keep on doing all of the things I know I shouldn’t do. I’m the problem. 

But what does “my life is none of my business” mean?

I’ve been thinking about this quite a bit and it resonates with me – yeah, there’s some truth to this! It’s something profound, but it’s hard to explain why.

Let me try: I think what Tim means is we should take ourselves out of the equation more often. Trust in the process, put your head down and do the things that must be done.

I generally know what I should do. But I just don’t do it more often than I’d like to admit. I should stop overanalyzing myself and my plans: I’m not perfect and my plans aren’t perfect, but right now I just need to stick to them.

Even if you like to second-guess everything in your life (like myself) and you’ve already missed your New Years resolutions (like myself), you’re probably doing better than you give yourself credit for. Be patient.

Just keep doing what you’re doing.
What happens, we can’t really control.
We could do all the right things but still get hit by a truck.
We could do all the right things but still never find success.
That’s life.

We have to try, there are no cheat codes to get to the finish line (and there’s no finish line in fact).
You could also say: Don’t give your ego too much power.

For the most part, we’re little leaves in the wind, pushed around by randomness and our DNA. In AA it all starts with accepting our powerlessness, and then rebuilding by sticking to the process (I haven’t been there, but that’s what I read).

Maybe you’re trying to do something creative, maybe you’re trying to build a business or just doing your job. If you can’t get anywhere, there’s a good chance you made it too much about YOU. It’s not always about you. I know it’s easier said than done with our brains, but it’s basically this: Just do it.

Just do it, stick to the good habits, get it done.
Think of the people who depend on you, too.

Maybe you’ll remember this the next time your brain questions everything – tell it to shut up and get out of your way.
We can’t know where exactly this will all lead us to, we can’t guarantee it’ll all work out, but sticking to our plans is the best thing we can do right now.

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