You’re Not Failing If …

Even if you don’t feel it, peace surrounds you.
Even if you don’t see it, you are doing better than you give yourself credit for. Even if you have no idea what’s going on or where you’re supposed to be, you are doing better than you think you are.

You are not failing if you are trying your best. You are not failing if the results you want aren’t showing right now. Even if decisions you make now affect you later negatively, in the end, it will be okay anyway.

Choose your truth over fear. Choose to step out on your own knowing that whenever you need support, someone will be there. Choose to choose yourself over anyone else.

What is best for you will find you. What is meant to be will come to be. Life is a rhythm of highs and lows and in-betweens, but it is all a part of your story. It all matters. Because even if something isn’t meant to happen, redemption and healing can always happen. Mistakes can always be forgiven. Freedom can always be found. You are free to be whoever you dream to be. You are deeply loved through it all.

At the end of the day what matters most is how we make other people feel, how we impact them, how we make their life a little bit brighter every moment we have with them. Money matters, but not the most. Pleasure matters, but not the most. Connection matters. Memories matter. Laughter matters. You matter.

Here’s my commentary These aren’t my words – it’s from a reddit post that deeply resonated with me, so I wanted to share it with you.

Especially the part about “you are not failing if you are trying your best” and “you’re doing better than you think you are” – I know this is hard to believe if your head is stuck in a dark cloud. But I’m convinced it’s true – if we trust in the process and keep going, it’ll pay off (and even if the end result is not exactly what you imagined it would be, you’ll feel 100x better while getting there).

Nonetheless, there are only two passages in this text I don’t fully agree with:

1. “You are free to be whoever you dream to be“:

That was a bit too naive and feel-good-Hollywood-movie-esque for me (and sometimes it’s outright dangerous advice). You have to look for the Venn diagram intersection of your dreams, your capabilities and whether opportunities like that exist in the real world. Some dreams are just unachievable – but there’s usually a similar (but different) version of that dream out there which is achievable. It’s good to dream big, though, I think – it’s just more interesting this way.

I’d probably replace this sentence with something like:
“You can change. You are free to reinvent yourself, it’s not too late, and live a life that you’ll love”

2. “At the end of the day what matters most is how we make other people feel, how we impact them (…)“:

Yeah, this is important. And a typical extrovert probably gets the most joy and fulfillment from their relationships. But that’s not necessarily true for everyone (and it’s dangerous to depend on how others feel about you for your happiness). Some people live happy lives, in solitude. Some people might choose to devote their lives to animal care and love it. Or to becoming a crazy scientist, or an artist. Or you choose to live in a cave and meditate all day (the Buddhist monks who do that all day are apparently the happiest people in the world).

I’d replace this sentence with something like: “At the end of the day, what matters most is to live authentically – that you find your true self and the courage to live accordingly”
(you might not yet know who that “true self” is and it might change as you age – but you’ll get closer and closer once you learn to listen to your heart and body. What feels right for you is right for you).

😴 What might help you find calm

Here’s another picture from Bretagne on a beautiful, peaceful evening stroll

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